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ONE BY ONE
THE TIME OF HER LIFE
BY FRANCESCA SUTERS
Francesca Suters at the launch of her novel Returning.
Aurora invited Francesca Suter s of Toronto
Parish to share some of the many facets
of her life. In doing so, she reveals wisdom
garnered from experience.
I hear my young child calling out in the
middle of the night. She must have kicked
her blankets off again. She must be cold. I
am cosy and war m. My blankets envelop
me, tempting me to remain wher e I am,
make my way to my daughter's room. I pull
the blankets up over her small, curled body
and r ub her back to warm her. While I am
up, I check on her two older sister s, then
finally make my way to my own blankets
which have lost a bit of their warmth. I
chase the sleep which has abandoned me.
Why leave the comfort of a warm bed to
tend to another? For love.
I hug and kiss my beautiful daughter, then
wave goodbye, leaving her in the care
of another a s I commence the day's
paid employment. My hear t is tor n on a
r egular basis, but this is a choice we have
made as a family, this is my attempt at
contributing to our financial security, so my
husband and I can both provide for our
Why would I forego time spent with my
children? Funnily enough, for love.
In the evenings af ter my children are
asleep, the lure of an unread book, a movie
waiting in its dvd cover or an early night to
sleep can be incredibly
though, I make comfor t
wait. Instead I sit at the
computer and tap away,
Why work into the night
on an unpaid piece of
writing? For love.
In this time in my life, I
am many things to many
people. I am a wife to my
incredible husband. I am a mother to
three wonderful daughter s aged seven,
four and two. I am a professional who
works 20 hour s per week, a hobby-blogger
and a debut novelist. I also co -ordinate
my daughters' weekly playgroup and my
husband and I are in the thick of building
a house. I am a daughter, a friend and
This time in my life is full and demanding,
yet I attempt to meet the needs of many
with my finite resources of time and
energy. However, the infinite resource of
love grows more bountiful the more it is
used. Love is such a powerful motivation
to do so many things. Love for my
family. Love for and through my
faith. Love for my interests.
Fitting everything in can
sometimes seem like trying
to do a jigsaw puz zle
with one too many pieces.
Sometimes a piece of the
jigsaw puz zle needs to be
put to one side for a while to
manage things. An after-school
activity might need to be dropped, the
blogging might slow down, or we might
not socialise for a while. Although love is
an infinite resource, it is not a superpower
which makes everything possible all the
time. Sometimes compromises must be
made. Sometimes help must be asked
of other s. In making decisions about
compromise, we prioritise. And in this, I am
guided by love.
"Having it all" is a fantasy we are constantly
being sold. "Wanting it all" is an aspiration
I admit to having. I can wear myself out
trying to do so much and fit it "all" in,
trying to be the best of ever ything, when
everything encompasses so much. And
then I inevitably stop. I slow down. I reflect.
I r ealise, again, that the "all" we are told to
have and for which I strive is a subjective
thing. My "all" is not what I am sold in
maga zines. My "all" is the sum of my loves.
So I have no reser vations in wanting my
"all", in working for it, in living it. For my "all",
I strive ever y day.
Although it can be dr aining, testing and
demanding, it is absolutely wor th it. I am
having the time of my life !
Francesca's debut novel Returning is
available through online booksellers as a
paperback and an ebook. Please visit w w w.
My "all" is
the sum of
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